the T word

Thank you for baking your yummilicious cupcakes to keep me well-fed. 

Thank you for your hidden letters over these few days.

Thank you for sourcing interesting websites to keep me entertained.

Thank you for recording the sweetest message on Mr Monkey.

Thank you for answering my call in the middle of the night.

Thank you for your VERY ENTERTAINING surprise video clip. I laughed till tears roll down my cheeks. Haa. It is so lame, yet so sweet and thoughtful. It can jolly well be one of the Singapore funniest home videos. Hee.

For all that you have done in making your absence more bearable, thank you.

movie, love and life

We managed to catch the movie P.S. I love you last Sunday. Boy, it really got to me. Plus now Mr Poto is at camp now. It makes me miss his presence even more. I cannot imagine life without him.

The movie started off with a quarrel between the girl and boy. It was like watching myself on the silver screen. It was exactly how our quarrels look like. Me always being the worrying one, and blaming him for any single thing that pissed me off. He saying sorry for the sake of saying sorry. Me still being angry for the sake of being angry. It’s great to see a film that I can relate too, instead of all those far-fetched fairytale-like love stories.

Love can be the sweetest thing in the world. It is what keeps us alive, at least make us feel that all the pain in life is worthwhile, because of love. But when love leaves you, it can hit you in the hardest way possible. Even a simple thing such as turning off the lights can remind you that he is no longer there for you. He is not coming back. Can you really bear to throw his things away? Or would you rather bear the pain of seeing his stuff and letting them remind you of your loss. He was your soulmate. He was part of your life. He was always there, through good times and bad times. He was the reason that life was bearable and beautiful. Now that he is gone, do you lose the reason of living, or do you find another reason to keep you alive.

Yes, family and friends will be there for you. They will make you feel better, let you think that you are not alone after all. But, it’s different. Everything has changed. You ARE alone, at least in the equation of love.

It pains my heart to see the pain and despair of the one being left behind. Though she managed to pick herself back in the end, there will always be a hole in her heart. She can meet someone else, but it will never be the same again. Can a heart love someone else so deeply again? I do not know. I do not wish to know too.

Last night, I met up with a dear old friend of mine. She told me that her primary school friend had passed away due to fits. It was really saddening. To know that someone of your age has left the world is not an easy news to comprehend. The ‘why’ word kept coming to my mind. Life is never fair.

Treasure every day my dear friends. Seize each second and moment. Cherish your loved ones. Care for others and yourself. Be happy and healthy. Live.

Through the years…and many more to come

 You have always dazzled me with your wonderful montages of our moments. Here’s a little something for you!

Stay

I never knew that I could miss someone so much.

I never knew that I could desire someone so much.

I never knew that I could yearn for someone so much.

I wish I could leave earlier.

Wait for me.

Stay.

The OSOK couple

Wedding Venue – OSOK

Bridal Boutique – OSOK

Actual day photographer – OSOK

Still don’t know what’s OSOK??????

One shot, one kill.

The past, present and future

In just a flash, chinese new year is soon to be over. The feeling of chinese new year hasn’t really sinked in yet and now the holidays are over. Does this mean that I am not truly seizing my days to the fullest?

Chinese new year bears a lot of hidden emotions for me. I remember how I used to love chinese new year when I was young. My mum would buy new clothes for me. I would always look forward to this special day where I need not go to school and can even get money out of this holiday. It was the best festival ever! Though as an only child, there wasn’t much for me to do at my relatives’ houses, but at least my parents were there with me. They would be talking happily with the adults, while I would sit there and watch tv. It was a simple affair. Wake up, doll up, greet the adults and say thank you when they handed me the ang baos.

Then, my beloved grandmas passed away. This spells the end of happy chinese new year for me. My parents started to go overseas during the new year, and I could not go at times as I still have to go to school after the first 2 days of new year. I was left alone. I still recalled how I had to go down to get Mac for lunch and came back with tears. I saw how others are with their family, happily walking along the streets, while I was alone with my pjs and buying food for myself. For many years, I hated chinese new year. It is the time of the year where I feel most lonely and dreadful.

Now, you came into my life. You brought me along to your relatives’ house for chinese new year. You made me realize the warmth of family again. Your nieces and nephews, your aunties and uncles, your cousins and parents..they are so warm and kind. You give meaning to this festival again.

With you in my life, I will not cry on this day again. I will not feel lonely. I will hold your hands and look forward to each new year to come. For that, thank you.

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Finally, I get to spend a whole day with Mr Poto. It was off to a great start. After so many failures, we finally can step into HDB hub as a couple to select our home sweet home. We reached there quite early and went to see the showflat. It was just simply the sweetest feeling, walking hand in hand with him.

Happening 1: The fight between 19th floor and 17th floor. We actually went in earlier than the 110 couple, who BY RIGHT should be in front of us. We told our officer that we wish to select the 19th floor unit, and managed to get it. But when the indian couple came in, they actually wanted the same unit too. Hence, we chose 17th floor instead. Well, for me, I’m happy enough to be able to select a unit. The floor doesn’t really make a big difference to me so long as I am living together with Mr Poto. After processing our application, the officer handling the indian couple told us that they may not want to get 19th floor afterall. We thought that that was a silver lining….and after waiting for some time….they finally STILL decided to take 19th floor. Haiz….well, that’s life. But nonetheless, I’m really very thankful for our chance to have a place of our own.

Happening 2: After a near 7 years together, we finally decided to open a joint account together. (At this point in time, I was grinning from ear to ear in the bank. My emotion – pure bliss.) This is truly one of the biggest commitment on my part. Hee, happy anniversary Mr Poto!

Happening 3: Catching a noon show with Mr Poto – 27 Dresses. It’s quite a sweet show, especially for the brides-to-be. I never knew that there were brides actually wanted the bridesmaids to look less attractive by wearing those hideous dresses! This thought has never crossed my mind before. Hmmmm….what colour scheme should my bridesmaids wear? Hee….

Happening 4: I received an sms from my supervisor amidst the show. It was an unpleasant one. It only goes to show how cuckoo my boss truly is. She actually wants us to work full day on Chinese New Year’s Eve!!!!!! We are not having classes on that day, why is she so unreasonable? I’m really quite pissed off with this arrangement. No wonder so many people are leaving.

Happening 5: My uncle just passed away. Although I’m not really close to him, I really feel so sad for him. He is divorced and his children are staying with their mother. He stays alone in a rented flat. When he got admitted into the hospital, nobody knew…nobody was by his side….alone…he was all alone…..Can you imagine that? That is the worse and coldest feeling I can ever imagine. We all came to the world with someone there for us, at the very least, we still have our mothers. Leaving this world alone, all alone, it just doesn’t make sense. Uncle, I really wish that you are at a happier place. I feel for you. I truly feel for you. I hope my father won’t be too upset as well…though he still seems to smile, I know that deep down inside, he is hurting. But, I really do not know how to console him, how to ease his pain.

Happening 6: Another unfortunate event – my friend’s niece got a high fever and was admitted into the hospital. When I heard her cry, I felt sorrow in my heart too. It just seemed like quite a lot of unhappy events are happening at the same time. It seems like this year is not going to end on a happy note.

In just a day, I have experienced losses and gains. I started the day with sorrow, followed by joy and bliss, followed by appreciation, followed by frustration. Now, I’m ending it a pinch of sadness in my heart.

~The End~