Simplicity

Spent my Tuesday with 2 Fs… Friend and Facial.

I met up with a friend for lunch today. Initially, the whole point of the lunch was to pass the birthday present to her and catch up. However, blur blur me forgot to bring the present down. Hence, we ended up having our catching-up lunch.

Miss Busy is really busy indeed. I can even feel her stress during the whole course of lunch. I tried to preach to her about work-life balance. But when I found out more about her current situation, I was speechless. It is easy to talk a whole load about work-life balance, when you do not have much burden on your shoulder. I am fortunate to have a family who is well-taken care of by my mummy. All I can say is that I hope that she will be able to feel happiness in her life.

Everyone of us have our own little sad stories, a part of us that is tied up in the little world of trouble and sadness. However, here is my thinking. When we are able to persevere through life despite our little sad stories and move on, this is what life is about.

Here comes the second F - Facial.

I went for my facial appointment in the afternoon at Subtle Senses. This is my second visit to the spa. I have forgotten how painful the facial can be. I really don’t understand why so many women love to go for facials when it is soooo painful during the extraction part. Well, the facial was fine. But I left feeling less than relaxed. This is the second time that they tried to hardsell me on their products, or topping up treatments. Come on, I have paid a certain price for the package already. Why do I still need to top up for all these products and treatments. These spas should really reconsider their hardsell techniques, as it only puts off their potential and existing customers. I cannot imagine another 24 more times of hardsell procedure after a relaxing spa. But I guess I will come out stronger…in terms of being thick-skinned. Hee. Gotta stay strong!

<<如果>>

每个人自出生后，一直被一条叫做 [缘分] 的绳子牵绑着，

一步一步地认识了许多原本不认识的人，

等到年纪越大时，绳子也会越来越多。

有时别人或许会放弃拉住这条和自己相连的绳子。。。

我们也可能放弃拉住和别人相连的绳子。

不过。。。就算在最艰难的状况下。。。

还会永远拉住绳子而不放弃的人。。。

应该就是妈妈吧。。。

<<后悔的小木偶皮诺丘>>

6 岁： 妈妈~！等我以后赚大钱，一定会带你去环游世界~！！！

15岁：给我买参考书的钱~！是真的~！哎哟~不用担心~！我一定会还给你的~！

18岁：妈~！等我退伍一定会好好养你的，再忍耐一下~！

40岁：帮我这一次就好，只要度过这个难关，以后就能够让您享福了。。。谢谢你，妈~！只要再等一下下就好。。。

等很久了吗？

托妈妈的福，我现在事业很成功，钱也赚很多了，

你看，这些是全部的钱。

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妈你起来啊。。。

我们要去环游世界了。。。

你不要一直躺着啊。。。

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对不起

我来晚了

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这两篇文章取缔于金光浩的漫画。我看了这本漫画后，深受感动。亲情是我们生命里如此重要的一部分，可是，我们常常所忽略到的也是亲情。

你是否还记得在多久前，对你的父母说句：“我爱你”？

我仿佛已不记得了。不知为何，我就是无法在言语上表达我对父母的爱与关怀。或许这与我们的沟通方式，跟他们如何把我抚养长大有关系吧。 我们不常把‘爱’挂在嘴边。曾几何时，我还以为他们根本不在乎我这个女儿。可是，我们是关心着彼此的。我只是以行动来表达我的孝心。

我知道我的父母不是天底下最好的父母，可是他们对我而言是完美的。

我知道我不是天底下最孝顺的女儿，可是我希望对他们而言，我是带给他们快乐的。

爸爸，妈妈，我爱你。

I am not a Christian, but I chanced upon these really meaning words. I wish I could have seen these words earlier.

“Let Them Go”

By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you,
coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean, hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left.

The Bible said that they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.

Let them go.

It doesn’t mean that they are a bad person; it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you’ve got to know when peoples’ part in your story is over
so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead. You’ve got to know when it’s dead.

You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it.
Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!

Have you ever took a second to look up into the sky and appreciate the beauty of nature? Have you ever looked at the passing trees and take it for granted? In the wake of modernization, our focus has been taken off the wonders of the nature. Buildings just seem to get taller, shifting our focus to the skyline and not the sky.

Even a leaf has a heart, how can we not take heart to care for our home? I chanced upon this fantastic poem. In addition, here is an interesting video I have found regarding global warming.

I am celebrating earth day by making my blog go green. Let us all do our part to make our home a better place. It’s a simple logic, without mother earth, there will not be us. Hence, make the right decision of recyling your plastic bags instead of buying another car. As Michael Jackson once said, heal the world…make it a better place. Putting his character aside, here is his Earth song. It really does contain such an important message for all of us.

Let us create, not destroy.

I have always had this epiphany of how life resembles taking the mrt train, whenever I was at the escalator of getting to the train.

Yes. Life is like taking a train. There will be a line of people standing on the left hand side of the escalator. They are the ones who are taking life slowly. And there will be the line of hurried people, rushing down the escalator to get down. There will always be these few people who will run towards the train, hoping to catch it. Some lucky ones will manage to slide through the door in time, while the unlucky ones will just have to act like nothing ever happened. Here, it seems as though one may miss an opportunity in life when he misses the train. But as life goes, there will always be another opportunity coming along.

The earlier you get into the train, you will be able to find seats. It’s the latter ones who usually have to just stand around. It’s the same when it comes to work. (At least in mine) If you hop onto the job first, you will get the comfort of rising faster in terms of seniority. Hence, you will just have to wait until the early birds get off the train first, in order to get your seat. (This theory is not applicable to pregnant ladies, elderly and children.)

Getting onto the train at the right place and the right time is very important. This is where you get to meet people who are fated to meet you. Who knows, your prince charming may just be there?

Taking the train with people who can click with you makes the train journey a lot more easier and fun. It just doesn’t seem that long and lonely. Hence, the importance of having family and friends in life. People always come first! But of course there will be times when you wish to be alone in the train in order to collect your thoughts together.

Taking a train everyday is a fresh experience. You get to meet different people. Or you can even always be meeting that one particular person everytime. Same place, same time. You can observe people. You can be inspired. There will be times where I will even try to imagine the other person’s life story.

There are times when the train will just get stuck while you are on it. It will just stay there for a while. That’s how it applies to me now in terms of my work. I am just on that train, not knowing where and when to get off. Somehow, the timing just doesn’t seem right. It’s not easy to achieve my dream honeymoon, while sitting on this train. I can just hop off the train to get married. But I will not be on any train. Or, I can get onto another train and postpone my dream honeymoon till a later date. But what if a baby comes along? Questions, questions and questions.

Where are you heading now on your train of life?

Wonders of the nature make everything else seem so insignificant.

Been surfing around, and decided to look for meaningful quotes. Here are some of those that I would like to share with you…

At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent.
– Barbara Bush

Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.
– Groucho Marx

The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
– Allan K. Chalmers

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.
– Fredrick Koeing

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.
– Thich Nhat Hahn

You may notice that there is a link with all these quotes. Yes, they are more emotive and mainly about happiness and life. Whenever someone asks me what is the most important thing in my life, my answer will always be ‘Happiness’.

Happiness has many meanings. It represents different things for different people. It is subjective. That’s what I like about it. I can twist and turn my present life, my current situation into happiness. Hence, I will always be able to have the most important thing that I value in my life. Is this sort of cheating? Haa..

There are some emotions that are hidden soooo deeply within me, that sometimes, I feel that a part of me is missing. Everyone has a sad story. As I am typing this second, I try to recall of my hidden sad story. Somehow, it’s beyond my reach. There is a hole in my heart, one which no one knows. Behind the happy face and spontaneous laughter, who would ever think of the sad story? Who would really care.

As the saying goes, argument is the worst sort of conversation. Well, that’s the sort of conversation that I have been having with Mr Poto lately. Quite a few combo hits within 2 weeks. It’s quite draining, but somehow certain things are best to be said out. Sometimes, I think that I am like a volcano. I will take in the negative emotions first, at least for 2 consecutive similar incidents. During the 3rd time, I will just erupt. After which, I guess I have to feel fine. I have to feel okay. I don’t know about that. Sometimes, the wound just doesn’t seem to heal. Sometimes, my heart still ache. Sometimes, I simply don’t know how I feel anymore.

2 different persons, embarking on a life journey together. There are many challenges. Things are no longer so simple. No longer like the name of my blog - simplicity. You need to accept another’s faults. What if you find it hard to accept. Do you give up?

The wedding preparation has taken a toil in our relationship. It seemed as though as we are on different paths and different chapters of our lives. Are we still on the same page? Are we still in it together? Or is it just me, myself and I?

Here’s a song to end this entry.

Just remember, In the winter,
Far beneath, The bitter snow,
Lies a seed, That with the suns love,
In the spring, Becomes a rose

(I still believe spring will come…)

We managed to catch the movie P.S. I love you last Sunday. Boy, it really got to me. Plus now Mr Poto is at camp now. It makes me miss his presence even more. I cannot imagine life without him.

The movie started off with a quarrel between the girl and boy. It was like watching myself on the silver screen. It was exactly how our quarrels look like. Me always being the worrying one, and blaming him for any single thing that pissed me off. He saying sorry for the sake of saying sorry. Me still being angry for the sake of being angry. It’s great to see a film that I can relate too, instead of all those far-fetched fairytale-like love stories.

Love can be the sweetest thing in the world. It is what keeps us alive, at least make us feel that all the pain in life is worthwhile, because of love. But when love leaves you, it can hit you in the hardest way possible. Even a simple thing such as turning off the lights can remind you that he is no longer there for you. He is not coming back. Can you really bear to throw his things away? Or would you rather bear the pain of seeing his stuff and letting them remind you of your loss. He was your soulmate. He was part of your life. He was always there, through good times and bad times. He was the reason that life was bearable and beautiful. Now that he is gone, do you lose the reason of living, or do you find another reason to keep you alive.

Yes, family and friends will be there for you. They will make you feel better, let you think that you are not alone after all. But, it’s different. Everything has changed. You ARE alone, at least in the equation of love.

It pains my heart to see the pain and despair of the one being left behind. Though she managed to pick herself back in the end, there will always be a hole in her heart. She can meet someone else, but it will never be the same again. Can a heart love someone else so deeply again? I do not know. I do not wish to know too.

Last night, I met up with a dear old friend of mine. She told me that her primary school friend had passed away due to fits. It was really saddening. To know that someone of your age has left the world is not an easy news to comprehend. The ‘why’ word kept coming to my mind. Life is never fair.

Treasure every day my dear friends. Seize each second and moment. Cherish your loved ones. Care for others and yourself. Be happy and healthy. Live.

Here’s a random thought:

It’s what you do that defines who you are.

OR

It’s who you are that defines what you do.

Well, I would go for the latter saying. But, that’s just me.